Friday, March 31, 2017

Meet Z & Curly Interviews

I asked the kids a list of questions and am writing the exact response they gave me.  This will give you a good idea of their personality.  I think it fits them to a T.

Z-Man
What is something I always say to you?
I love you.

What makes me happy?
When I do the right thing.

What makes me sad?
When I don't follow directions.

Who makes you laugh?
You, sometimes.  Dad, mostly.

How old am I?
24

How tall am I?
7 foot

What is my favorite thing to do?
A lot of stuff.  Play with me.

What is your favorite food?
Potted meat sandwiches with mayo. (Huh?  This was totally new to me... is that like, SPAM?)

Where would you most like to go on vacation?
Mt. Rushmore

What is your favorite school activity?
Recess and lunch

What is your favorite sport?
Wrestling

If you could change your name to anything, what would it be?
Bananas (????)

Who is your best friend?
Corbin

What do you want to be when you grow up?
That, I'll have to come back to.............. A scientist

If you could have one super power, what would it be?
This is a tough one!  Superman powers!  No, Aqua Man powers!  Wait!  I would pick speedy fast like the Flash.  No!  Aqua Man.  My final pick is breathing under water.

What is the best thing you like about yourself?
That I do wrestling (he's had 1 day of wrestling camp so far.  That was the night I asked these questions)

If you had 3 wishes, what would they be?
To have everything I wanted, everything didn't cost anything, and I could catch my own leprechaun so I could have 3 more wishes.

What is something that scares you?
The dark.

Who is someone you look up to?
You guys.

What does Heaven look like?
It's a beautiful place with big mansions, streets made out of gold, and very beautiful.  That's all I can think of right now.

What is one quality you look for in a friend?
Someone that lets me pick the games (I told you this would let you get to know their personality...)

What is the worst food in the world?
It's a tie between tomatoes and avocados!

If you could be anyone in the world, who would you be?
Aqua Man or Super Man

What are 3 things you learned today?
Math, Reading, and wrestling moves

Curly
What is something I always say to you?
That you love me.

What makes me happy?
Me following directions, or just me in general.

What makes me sad?
When I don't do the right things.  It's just the opposite of the last one.  Wait, what really does make you sad?

Who makes you laugh?
This is one of the funniest things I've ever heard.  "I farted, it tickled.  My butt cheeks giggled!" It's the funniest thing!  (giggle, giggle, giggle- it took awhile before I could ask the next question)

How old am I?
I already know!  30!

How tall am I?
8 inches or more.

What is my favorite thing to do?
Playing with somebody

What is your favorite food?
Tomatoes and Avocados!  Exactly what Z doesn't like!  Or guacamole.

Where would you most like to go on vacation?
That's a very hard question.  Because I want to go to a lot of places!  To my cousins in Iowa and that place with Kelsey, Kaley, and Kinsey.  Where was that again? (Minnesota)  Yeah, there.  Except I hope they have snow next time.  And then back to Illinois to my friend Nora's.

What is your favorite school activity?
Umm... Recess.  Duh!

What is your favorite sport?
Racing.  Like, running.  I've been practicing that a lot lately.

If you could change your name to anything, what would it be?
Tomatoes (????)

Who is your best friend?
Too many!  Should I just blurt out one?  Can it be a grown-up?  There's too many grown-ups and kids that are my friend.  I can't pick!  And that's mean to pick just one.  They're all my friends.

What do you want to be when you grow up?
A scientist and be in the same lab as Z.

If you could have one super power, what would it be?
Why would you say that?  That's silly.  Too many.  I don't know.  Maybe be able to eat as much candy as I wanted and not get sick.

What is the best thing you like about yourself?
Just a second.  I will get that answer down. (She disappears for awhile and comes back with a whale she made out of a blue cup that has Jonah attached to it like the whale is swallowing Jonah.)  That I'm good at making things.

If you had 3 wishes, what would they be?
That everything was made out of candy, that candy was good for you, and that their was 1 million jars of candy.

What is something that scares you?
Spiders and snakes.  Both of them.  And dark places.

Who is someone you look up to?
You and Dad, but mostly you.

What does Heaven look like?
Very, very, very, very, very beautiful!  Too beautiful.

What is one quality you look for in a friend?
Someone who is nice.

What is the worst food in the world?
Kiwi and BBQ stuff.

If you could be anyone in the world, who would you be?
God and Jesus.  One of them because they are the most important.

What are 3 things you learned today?
Mathematics, well... getting in trouble can be a very worse thing to do, and that my brother CAN be fun.




Tuesday, January 17, 2017

How's it going?

So, how's it going?  That's a question we have gotten frequently in the past almost 2 months.  I can't believe it's been almost 2 months already!  Here's the real deal.  It's hard.  It's one of the hardest things we have ever done.  We are gaining.  We are praying. We are crying.  We are praying.  We are smiling.  We are praying.  Do you see the theme here?  We have relied on God for our strength.  And that is why we are able to continue.
We are so thankful for each of your prayers- they have been felt.  Thank you to those of you who sent us kind words of encouragement, clothes, food, and other forms of support.  They have been such a blessing to us.
Here's a day in our life- to give you an idea.
6:00 Jacob & I get up, read & pray, get dressed
6:15 Curly gets up- she has a harder time getting going in the morning- so we get her up a little earlier
6:30 Z-Man gets up
They both have a visual chart that I made that shows what tasks they are supposed to do in what order.  They are not very familiar with structure and it's hard for them to focus on what they are supposed to be doing to get ready for school.
6:45- we are supposed to be eating breakfast.  I admit... my father would not be proud of how many times we have had cold cereal.  He always claimed cereal wasn't truly food- but I think it will do for now.  I am trying to get organized and have eggs more often since we have chickens now, but haven't quite found the time to accomplish that.  I am learning how some things are just going to have to slide for now... like eggs for breakfast.  Sorry, Dad!
7:15- we should be finished with breakfast, but Curly likes to be reminded when to take a bite every. single. time.  So this doesn't always happen.  They brush their teeth, get their back pack ready, oops! realized Z-Man had homework that he didn't remember last night, quick do that, wait!  your outfit does not match... go change into something so you don't look like you are not well taken care.  I'm thinking of letting this one slide sooner or later too.  They are clothed, right?
Jake also leaves at this time.
7:40- We leave for school.  I take them to school, otherwise they would have to get on the bus at 6:45 am.  I don't want to have to get up any earlier.  It is on my way to work, but it also means that I get to work an hour early.
8:00- I get to work and relax in the quiet, dark bank.  This has probably become one of my favorite times of the day.
9:00-3:00- I am actually working at the bank.
3:20- the kids are involved in an after school program that is called Kansas Reading Roadmap for extra learning.  They are adjusting to a new school and friends and this has been really good for them!
3:30- I get home and start on laundry, supper, cleaning, or in my Creative Touch office.
5:30- Jake usually gets home.
5:45- The kiddos get home and we eat supper.
6:30- We spend time reading or playing games with them.
7:30- We start getting ready for bed- showers, brush teeth, pajamas, story time
8:00-8:15- Kids are in bed and lights are off.  Who am I kidding?  Sometimes I am also in bed with the lights off...  The first 2 weeks Jake was also in bed by this time.  He has adjusted well... I have not.
If I am not in bed we try to spend time together whether its cleaning up or just chatting.
Things we have learned:

*We really don't know much about parenting.
*I need at least 9 hours of sleep.
*We like quiet time.
*I didn't know there were so many cute things for a 6 yr. old girl to wear!
*It is very important to compliment other parents and tell them they are doing an awesome job.  Most days I haven't felt like I was a very good mom.  So encouragement is something I'm trying to do to other moms.
*Z-Man is a typical 8 year old boy.  Seriously.  I grew up with 7 boys and I don't remember it being this... challenging.  He definitely  is more challenging because of the trauma he endured, but most of the things I was concerned about- other boy moms have told me it was normal.
*Our patience level gets maxed out too frequently.  We are working on that.
*Apparently I never feed Z-Man.  He is ALWAYS starving!
*I can't imagine being a single parent.  Seriously.  I don't know how they do it.
*We both NEED coffee.
*It is super tough working full time and taking care of everything and everybody at home.  I didn't think it would be that bad, but I'm seeing more and more things get dropped because I don't have time to do them.  Then I get mom guilt when I'm doing something that needs done and the kids just want me to spend time with them.
*I am not a good multitasker
*We are the best cooks ever!  (Good thing they are not picky!)
*I am not good at remembering the camera.
*Prayer means so much more.  We can't get through the day without it.
*How important it is to take care of ourselves.  Focusing solely on the kids does not make us good parents.
*Simplicity.  In order to become better parents, we have had to let go of some non-essentials in life.  I have learned that I love simple.  Simple meals, simple schedules, simple decorating= simple cleaning, etc.  We have learned how to say no and not let it bother us.
*Kid's are so forgiving.  Thankfully!
*Routines are essential.  Consistency is key.
*I can't go anywhere without my Simplified Planner.  It keeps me focused on daily life and tasks at hand.  I put everything in there, from birthdays to appointments to LAUNDRY MUST GET DONE TODAY OR ELSE! to meal planning or prep work that needs done.
*Parenting is humbling.
*Parenting is rewarding.

I'm sure there is more.  But if you lasted this long through this post, kudos to you.
Signed,
New Foster Parents